Bate Buds. Part One.
Mutual masturbation is a normal activity many men discover in their youth. I personally grew up jerking off with most of my cousins and friends and will never forget my first circle jerk freshman year of high school. Sadly, this primal and natural bonding experience often fades away as insecurities creep in. It is my belief that all men love cock. Yes, even our straight brothers. It’s natural to be attracted to and aroused by your own hard dick and so it stands to reason that other hard cocks will get you aroused as well. That arousal does not denote sexual preference but is rather an acknowledgment of the primal bond all men share by knowing the feeling of a hard cock in his hand. It’s a true connection only men know, and it becomes even more heightened when shared with a bro or in a group.
Looking back at my robust history of bate buds, it’s safe to say that I was often the instigator in many of those scenarios. Since circle jerks were a regular thing for me, I always figured it was a common scenario for others. As an adult, I know many men are yearning for those nostalgic wanks of yore before judgment or shame creeped in about their attraction to dick.
Now that I lead masturbation rituals and dick-centric events for men, I get this question a lot...
“How do you initiate jerking off with a friend?”
So, I decided to share my experience and some tips for you here.
Tip 1) Be respectful.
No one likes to feel pressured into anything, especially a sexual experience that may be new or at least is shuddered in some insecurities and self-doubt. While this may come as an obvious one, it should always be the first consideration. If you notice your bro getting uncomfortable, hit pause and wait to see if he warms up to the idea and let him come to you at his own pace.
Tip 2) Get naked.
Nudity does not have to be sexual, but chances are when you put two naked dudes together something may just pop up. I’m so comfortable with my own body, that I have no problem being the only one hard and stroking in the group if no one else cares. How do you get naked with a friend you’ve never been naked with? Suggest some skinny dipping, or naked sunbathing. Getting naked in nature is incredibly freeing, so why not suggest dropping your pants on a buddy hike. Not a hiker or don’t have a place to swim? Try a naked workout with a bro which is sure to get your juices flowing. Try having a naked push up contest, but you have to touch your dick to the ground at the bottom for each rep to count. At the very least, skip the towel in the gym locker room. It's just unnecessary.
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Tip 3) Talk about it.
I love talking about my cock and so do most dudes. I send my best buds so many dick pics, they are almost more shocked when they see me in pants. We talk about our dicks, our boners, our loads, and our sex lives. We also talk about masturbating and all that talk may just inspire someone to whip it out. If the conversation is heating up, suggest you both take matters into your own hands. Chances are, he’s thinking the same thing bro.
Tip 4) Keep your distance.
Many men, especially those who do not identify as queer, may struggle with the idea of mutual masturbation for fear of it changing their sexual orientation. Many of my best bate buds are 100% straight men, many who have wives, who have zero attraction to men but still are into the idea of rubbing one out with a buddy. Duh, it’s only natural. To stay respectful and not cross the line, keep some distance once you’re stroking unless your buddy initiates otherwise. One of my best mates and I never touch each other but enjoy sitting side by side and experiencing our cocks separate but together. Hearing each other’s lubed-up dicks and moans as you stroke together is enough to get me hard right now just thinking about it. Often in my experience, having those boundaries leads to an even more heightened experience.
Tip 5) Press play.
My freshman year circle jerk happened after practice one day when four buddies and I popped in an old VHS I had stolen from my Dad years before. As we hit the gangbang scene where a busty blond but sucking on four swollen cocks, it was a matter of minutes before my friend Chris dropped his pants and grabbed his dick. We each followed his lead without question. If you’re close enough with your mate to watch porn together, sharing a bate is an easy next step.
If you’re lucky enough to have some regular penis time with your buddies, good on you mate. You're an evolved man unafraid of outside voices, who knows how to listen to himself and communicate his needs.
If you’re yearning for more or looking to get started, hopefully these tips will help you find your stroke.
I’ll be sharing more tips and some stories soon. Have a story of your own to share? Get in touch.
As always, stay naked.
In Nude Health,
Your Naked Trainer
9/21/2022 10:29:19 am
Hey guys, it was so refreshing to read your post here. Growing up in a religious house I was taught that being naked and masturbation was bad and I should be ashamed to even have an erection. Took me a long time to shed all that shame. Still have some residual shame after 50 years but I am working through that.
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